With Change Comes Opportunity
When you experience a major life loss, your brain feels fuzzy and you are filled with negative emotions that are overwhelming.
These losses may include a loved one, a job, financial security, people you count on, or the place you call home.
Dealing with pain and adversity will take time. The impact of loss is painful, and choosing to be positive seems impossible.
Helpful ideas include:
Join a grief group. There are various kinds. Some have a specific formula to follow. Others are guided but basically open.
You may have to check out several before finding one in which you are comfortable. Call and speak with the leader, then attend a couple of sessions. Don’t hesitate to ask questions, and if it doesn’t seem right, look for another. This may take a little time, but it’s important for you to feel helped. Some people are not interested in joining a group.
Talk to a professional therapist. You can open up to someone trained to listen and share insight with you. This will be a paid person, so consider your budget. There are usually individuals who do some pro bono work.
Decide to manage your emotions and the changes to your life by yourself. Self discipline will be beneficial here. Making a general life plan would be a good start. Something simple and forward moving.
There is no specific time frame for the mourning period. When you begin to experience the following benefits, you may feel you are getting better.
A sense of control over your life.
An evaluation of the status quo.
A feeling of energy.
A positive attitude.
A sense of accomplishment for moving forward.
Bereavement is often associated with the loss of a person. But the loss of anything that is meaningful or necessary to your wellbeing causes grief and mourning.
Here are a few websites that offer ideas and information.